17/11/14
In any area of your life you want to change, there is one fact that you need to know……..You are never going to feel like it!
Scientists call it activation energy. That’s what they call the force required to get you to change something you were doing on autopilot to doing something new.
For a while I didn’t feel like posting, I mean, I wrote in the background, but I didn’t post anything, because to be honest I didn’t ‘feel like it’. I felt demotivated for one reason or another and used that as an excuse, but yesterday I realised that nothing is going to make me feel like it unless I force myself to so voilà, here I am posting after over two months off……
If you don’t believe me try this test tomorrow. Tomorrow morning set your alarm for thirty minutes earlier. And then when it goes off, take those sheets, throw them off, and stand up and start your day. No snooze, no delay. Do it! When you do this test, you will come face to face with the physical force, that’s required to change your behaviour.
Do you really think that somebody who needs to lose weight ever feels like going on a diet? Of course not! You think they ever feel like eating chicken breast and broccoli instead of a burrito from Chipotle…..I don’t think so (just ask my ‘babi’). The activation energy required to get your ass up and out the front door, to go and start the business you have always wanted to start, is the exact same force that it takes you to push yourself out of a warm bed and into a cold room.
What’s interesting about being an adult, is that nobody tells you that it’s now going to be your job to parent yourself. I mean it is sort of implied but not really if you get what I mean. By parent yourself, I mean its your job to make yourself do the crap you don’t want to do, so you can be everything that you’re supposed to be. And you’re so damn busy waiting to feel like it but you’re never going to. Not ever!
I have talked about in the past, when I felt stuck and dissatisfied in my life and how it was a signal for things to change. What I didn’t realise at the time, was it wasn’t a signal that my life was broken, rather it was a signal that one of life’s most basic need wasn’t being met. Our need for exploration! Everything about life, about our body, grows! Our hair, our cells regenerate, everything grows in our entire life. And our soul needs exploration and growth. And the only way I realised I would get it, is by forcing myself to be uncomfortable……….
P.s Not all the content within this post is mine, check out Mel Gibbins speech on this – its amazing and inspiring!
As you know I love sharing my random photos with you, so here’s a few of my recent ones from my trip to Thailand last week
I am currently feeling stuck and dissatisfied..but now I know what it means and what to do about it.
Yeah i think as humans its something we all go through at some point in our lives….the first step is being aware of it which you are and the second step is motivating yourself to do something about it. Thank you for commenting and please do enjoy reading asklychee.
Thank u so much for this writeup.I find myself constantly sharing ideas with people but never doing anything about(sleeping too much too),I now know to drag myself up and to get stronger as the days go by..thanks again.
P.s never stop writing
Thank you have done 🙂
Great piece of writing and profound thoughts here. Thumbs up.
If you have the time and means, one place you should visit is Cambodia. You will be inspired by the genocide story that killed over two million people 35 years ago plus one of the wonders of the ancient world at Angkor Wat – site of the largest religious monument in the world made famous by Angelina Jolie as Lara Croft in Tomb Raider.
https://topetempler.wordpress.com/2015/06/29/a-long-road-to-peace/
Thank you so much, I have always wanted to go there was supposed to go last year but was not enough time now there is so who knows…..