“Everyone believes that the main aim in life is to follow a plan. They never ask if that plan is theirs or if it was created by another person. They accumulate experiences, memories, things, other people’s ideas, and it is more than they can possibly cope with. And that is why they forget their dreams.” – Paulo Coelho
Job security, a nicer home to live in, good schools for our children are all valid ambitions, but alone they’ll only bring superficial happiness.
In a moment any one of them can disappear.
Instead ask yourself:
Am I happy?
Am I calm?
Is stress a part of my daily life?
Am I kind?
Am I compassionate?
Do I listen when someone needs me?
Do I do my best?
It’s not easy to redefine yourself outside of a career. Often the first thing we tell a new acquaintance is what we do. I’m a Teacher, an Artist, a Scientist, an Entrepreneur, or a Customer Assistant at a store. It’s almost as if just being human isn’t enough. The funny thing is that this only really dawned on me after I quit my job, and the answer to this question no longer had the same meaning or carried ‘enough’ weight like it did a few months ago.
Our culture, myself included, seems to be way too focused on “What do you do?” with very little, if any, emphasis on “What are you passionate about?” In most cases these two questions yield radically different answers. They are incongruent. What I did to earn a living – to which my easy answer was ‘I’m an Implementation Manager” – wasn’t what I was passionate about neither did that even spark an interest in the person who asked the question. Think about it! The question “What I do?” gets in a way of “what I’m passionate about,” not allowing us to form the much needed relationship necessary to cultivate that passion!
Something to think about this Monday Morning 🙂
Be happy. x