I ask myself: are defeats necessary? Well, necessary or not, they happen. When we first begin fighting for our dream, we have no experience and make many mistakes. The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times. So, why is it so important to chase our dreams and live our personal calling if we are only going to suffer more than other people? Because, once we have overcome the defeats – and we always do – we are filled by a greater sense of euphoria and confidence. In the silence of our hearts, we know that we are proving ourselves worthy of the miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the good fight. We start to live with enthusiasm and pleasure.
Oscar Wilde said: ‘each man kills the thing he loves’. And it’s true. The mere possibility of getting what we want fills the soul of the ordinary person with guilt. We look around at all those who have failed to get what they want and feel that we do not deserve to get what we want either. We forget about all the obstacles we overcame, all the suffering we endured, all the things we had to give up in order to get this far. I have known a lot of people who, when their personal calling was within their grasp, went on to commit a series of stupid mistakes and never reached their goal – when it was only a step away. If you believe yourself worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you become an instrument of God, you help the Soul of the World and you understand why you are here. This might seem a little bit strange to you, but it’s 100% true. There was a time that I fought so hard to make my mum happy with the guy I chose to be with in life (because that was important to me – just cos), I felt so defeated because nothing was working, I tried several times, over years and years, and then eventually I had a breakthrough and it was as if all that hard work and all those defeats I faced was worth it! They are the best of friends, like seriously – it’s actually quite annoying as sometimes he just comes round to hang out with her rather than me but am very thankful! Wedding is around the corner God willing 🙂