“Just be yourself”. We’ve all heard the golden rule a thousand times before, yet how many of us can honestly say we openly expose the complete, unedited version of our authentic self for the world to see – blemishes and all?
Whether we’re talking a subtle retouching of our perceived imperfections, or a gaping chasm between the mask we wear in public and the true self hidden within, almost everyone is holding onto some heavily conditioned beliefs around what we must present to the world in order to fit in, be accepted, liked and loved. But the extent to which this airbrushing of inauthenticity can be negatively impacting our lives and may go deeper than you think.
Regardless of what you may be portraying on the surface, living incongruently with your authentic self is a hotbed for cultivating a damaging low sense of worth that the world cannot help but reflect right back at you.Any belief that the real version of you needs to be edited and polished before being fit to put on display implies to your true self that it’s somehow not good enough, lacking or that there’s clearly something wrong with you.
The most impactful relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself – only when we step aside from the distortions of our ego and clearly see where the gaps are can we invite the real change, growth and progress that will actually fill them, rather than simply painting over the cracks with a fresh coat of denial.
In the end, wearing the protective gear that keeps our authentic self at a safe distance from exposure to the possible bumps and bruises along the journey of life also prevents us from ever wholeheartedly embracing the highest highs. Diluting how much of ourselves we are willing to unreservedly throw into anything we do only waters down any reward we can ever genuinely receive. Real fulfilment comes with living freely, living fully and living your truth.
As C.G Jung put it: ““The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” – C.G. Jung