Man Crush Monday (MCM)

I recently did a post about #GOALS.

It seems fitting that I now write about ‘real’ goals especially as we are drawing closer to the end of the year and I know that for some people, new year resolutions and goals go hand in hand.

Although New Years resolutions are fun to come up with, often they are based on one’s ideal version of reality & they almost never make room for change or life’s unannounced surprises.

So this year I am not going to make any new year resolutions as I never stick to them long enough to make a real difference, rather I am going to make some goals (no #).

I haven’t really thought about what my goals are in a very long time, in fact I wasn’t even sure what they were until I began to write this post. My life has taken a completely different route to what I had ever imagined, consisting of the new world of social media, opportunities for travel and adventure, becoming a wife (big deal for me) and having my own very own blog where people actually read my posts. This all took place within the past year and a half and has indeed become a large part of my life, and although not much else has changed in terms of who I am, my love for God, my relationship with babi and my daily lifestyle, I have to make room for this new and exciting path, one that holds the most surprises and the most uncertainty.

But before we talk more about that, let me take you on a quick and condensed journey back through time so you can understand where I am going with this.

So you see, I have spent the last 7 years watching and admiring this guy called Suli Breaks (who also happens to be my husband), transform from a cleaner, whose life was consumed by setbacks, where there was a lot of uncertainty as to what his future might hold, being fired from his full time retail job, into a wonderful journey through the space and time of the Internet.

I didn’t even know that ‘Spoken Word’ existed or that Youtube was a thing used for more reasons than catching up with reruns of Fresh Prince or getting help with my university coursework. I didn’t see the big deal in Youtube at all, all I knew was that Suli saw it as a chance for his message to reach millions. I always hoped and believed for that, as I saw the amount of hours he threw into himself and ‘Spoken Word’ but I never really knew it would happen. I watched his life turn into a series of opportunities that many could only dream about, including myself, but yet the lesson there was vital and so blatant – through hard work and perseverance, you can make your ideal world a reality! As disgustingly cliche and poetic as that sounds, I witnessed it first-hand.

This right here, me being a witness to that, laid the foundation for me setting my goals. It cemented my love for helping people whether it be someone I know or someone I don’t know. Through witnessing how quickly life can change, I learnt, as I stated above, that through hard work, belief and perseverance you can determine your outcome without succumbing to the pressures of what society has deemed as right or ‘normal’, these levels of ‘social norms’ are constantly undergoing change.

There is no right or wrong path despite what your teachers, parents or friends say, and least of all, what society says. At one stage society deemed it as ‘normal’ for women to have little to no rights as well as considered it ‘normal’ to only bath once a year. Now its considered normal to work from nine in the morning to five in the afternoon at something that does not give us the least pleasure, so that we can retire after 30 years, as well as it being ‘normal’ to invest a lot in exterior beauty and pay little attention to interior beauty.

The unknown future is a scary place and I’m scared as hell as the new chapter of independence and freedom begins to unfold and I hope that you scared too, because that’s when we are doing it right! Bring on 2016 🙂

Enough about me, now it’s your turn, I want to hear about big changes that you’ve made within your life, unexpected turns or when you beat the odds!

Have a great New Year when it comes.

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