3 simple words.
We ask this question all the time, to friends, to family, to colleagues, to anyone basically.
It is meant to signify that we care, that we want to understand how we can help this person, but very often this question is asked out of obligation or simply out of habit.
The Oxford English Dictionary defines the phrase as a common phrase often used as a mere greeting or salutation. It has formed part of our everyday speak to the point where when we ask the question sometimes we don’t even wait for the answer because we assume the person will just say the magical three words, “I am fine”.
But what happens when they say more than that?
Yesterday I was talking to an old friend of mine. I missed her, as it had been a long time since I spoke to her. She asked me, ‘How are you, Lindy?’ But the way she asked was as if she genuinely meant it. So I genuinely answered and responded with more than the usual three words. When answering the question it made me want to be more deliberate when asking this question myself.
So this is something I will be practising as of today and the only way I can hold myself accountable to this is if I remind myself of this through writing this post – sorry!
Would be interested in knowing how you feel when someone asks you this question but cares/does not care for your answer? Do you sometimes fall into the habit of asking the question, even if you don’t have the time to hear the true response? Would love to hear your comments below.
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