Ever notice you’ve got caught in the ‘I’ll be happy when…’ trap? It’s one I’ve learned to spot for myself. It might be ‘I’ll be happy when… I’m feeling more rested / I’ve got a manageable To Do list / I’ve reached a particular work goal’. You get the idea. There are a couple of drawbacks to this. Firstly, it means we’re always delaying happiness until some time in the future. Also, we don’t always get what we want in life – so what then? If happiness depends on getting what we want, our opportunities to experience it may become limited. Alternatively, we can choose to find contentment here, in this moment, regardless of whether everything is the way we want it.
I’ve become very curious about a common phrase I hear a lot. When someone asks ‘how’s things?’, people often say ‘we’re getting there, thanks’. I’m wondering where ‘there’ is exactly. Because, really, the finish line is death. The ending that we’re seeking will come eventually, when there’s no more living to do. When we put off happiness until we get ‘there’, we’re missing our real lives!
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