I am not goals.
“You know very little about me.”
“Even what I do decide to share, it isn’t enough to say that you know me.”
“Yet you look at my life, my relationships, my career and you say or think “goals”.
These are just some of the thoughts I have when I see the word “goals” and after not being able to ignore this ‘trend’ any longer of hash-tagging almost every picture with #goals, I feel like it is my responsibility to address the issue from where I stand on this and fill you in on why it is disheartening to read those comments on not just my content, but comments on many other influential people’s content whom I follow.
My life is not goals.
And I don’t want my life to be goals.
It’s a concept that somehow has invaded real life.
To the point where I was talking to someone the other day, and she lifted up my hand to look at my wedding band/engagement ring, and then proceeded on to say “goals”.
Seriously?!!?! Like what does that even mean??!?!??!!
Does it mean you aim to have a ring like mine?
A marriage like mine?
I am confused.
What does it actually imply?
I mean, yes my relationship is great a lot of the times, BUT like any relationship there are endless fluctuations of highs and lows, which I talk about in previous posts.
Although receiving comments on posts (and in some cases real life) that hashtag some sort of goals may be considered as a compliment as it means that something right is being done to portray an image that tugs on people’s heartstrings, it is at the same time disheartening when realising that for many people, the symbols that images represent on social media such as ‘the perfect body’, ‘the perfect relationship’ and ‘the perfect lifestyle’ have turned into real life goals for many who blindly double-tap these images and retweet these tweets.
As I said, this is a trend and I understand that for many, it is done in jest or in a joking manner, however for majority of people that leave these comments, I really believe that it epitomises the goals that young, educated adolescents and adults are striving for in life. And that worries me a little hence this blog post.
According to the Oxford Dictionary, the definition of a “goal” is “something you are trying to do or achieve.”
However a “goal” in this new day and age, implies something aspirational and outlandish, a perceived quality of life that we categorise as unattainable. By deeming something out of reach (even ironically), we’re commenting on it as much as we are our own limitations.
Think about it.
We (including myself at times) are carelessly using the same sturdy noun once reserved for landing a promotion, completing a marathon, or putting a down payment on a dream home for prefixes such as “life,” “body,” “hair,” “squad,” and “relationship”.
By glorifying unattainable goals—we’re permitting ourselves to wave a white flag of inferiority. The true irony of the hashtag is that, when employed as a throwaway annotation, it means the exact opposite of the word’s definition.
Sure, #goals may just be a remark on par with a pair of clapping hands or a trio of flames, but at the end of the day, the grim subtext here is that we, ourselves—our own mediocre hair, friends, jobs, relationships, and lives—are somehow the punch line.
So I will say it again, I am not goals!
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