My goal in love has always been to find someone to grow through it with.
This hasn’t been easy! Growing hurts at times. There are intense moments of discomfort and uncertainty, but still—i wouldn’t choose to do this love thing with anyone but my husband.
It’s hard. It’s gentle. It’s ever changing. It’s beautiful, kind, and everything else in between—but most of all, our love is worth it.
We are in this, and no outside force will be able to infiltrate what we’ve built and grown in love.
My advice: do life with someone you can grow with. Through every stage—the good and the bad.
And as two flawed humans choosing to stand in love, marriage isn’t easy. It’s constantly shifting, changing, and evolving.
There are seasons in a committed partnership, just like in our other walks of life— most of which remind me of autumn and spring. Dying, wilting, blooming, rebirth. but the seasons are abundant when you’re doing life with the right people. Not, perfect people, the right people.
When I fell in love with Suliaman my world, as I knew it, stopped and restarted. It was the best feeling. However, I didn’t taste our true and real love until our “Autumn” came, until things weren’t “the best,” until things felt like they were wilting.
There are many pivotal moments in love that require us to get up from falling hard and choose to stand tall.
Falling isn’t the greatest and most authentic form of being in love—standing in it is, when things are hard, “dying,” shifting, etc. That’s when the truth comes out, that’s when the love shines.
Can you still be in love when the going gets tough?
Can you heal and come back together after?
Those are the questions we must ask ourselves when in these committed partnerships. Your “autumn love” doesn’t have to be devastating or debilitating.
Nothing major has to happen for the leaves to start falling.
Sometimes it may just taste or feel different, your pages may be off, your hearts may not be in sync, and that is alright! we are humans and we’re not meant to walk this earth and be perfect. But we are, I think, meant to walk this earth and love hard on the people we encounter and journey with.
I am constantly learning to not romanticise the intimacy of love, but to greet it with respect and realism.
I challenge you to do the same, romantic or platonic, open your heart and learn your way through love.
Hopefully, this message blesses someone, somewhere.