Why is it so hard to mind your own business?
This is a question that has plagued my mind for months now.
It is so common for us to have conversations about other people and their circumstances, to the extent where it can almost be described as a trait that is ingrained in us humans.
When friends tell us about their problems and ask for advice, we feel the need to help them. We love them, and we hate to see them hurt.
Even when they don’t ask us for advice, we feel the need to step in. And for those who don’t feel this urge, there is still a tendency to think that you know best and would do things differently if you were in a similar position.
And this is one of many poignant moments.
For some reason, you honestly believe that if you were in their situation, and walked in their shoes, that you would do things differently.
That you would dump the guy, if they cheated or that you would quit your job with no back up plan. Really???
Why is that?
Why is that everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own?
Why are people too quick to judge other people’s shortcomings, but are reluctant to look internally and evaluate their own?
If someone is happy and you simply don’t agree with their decision (and most importantly it doesn’t concern you), do not offer your opinion. You should mind your own business. It is as simple as that.
It’s funny how people think they can live my life better than me, when they’re even struggling to live theirs.
What I choose to do with my life is my choice and not yours, and what choices I decide to make is mine and mine only, and who I associate myself with is my decision and it’s none of your business. And vice versa.
And yes I know there are people in your life that will always have your best interest at heart, so it is important to value those opinions.
However, often times there are people in your life that seem to be on your side, but when push comes to shove, they will judge you harder than your worst critic. These people are detrimental and will relish in your shortcomings while continuously pointing them out every chance they have.
If you are happy with who you are as a person, other people’s opinions should not even faze you. Everyone has their own battles to fight and insecurities to face and these challenges would be a lot easier to overcome if other people weren’t forcing their unwarranted opinions onto them.
Why is this such a difficult concept for people to grasp?
Shouldn’t this be common sense?
Even if people care, most of them are ill-equipped to give advice based on another person’s needs and typically want to feel as if someone is listening to them.
Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticise others.
This is not a free pass to be selfish and not help others, far from it.
Rather this is to remind you that you have no idea what path people have walked in life so who’s to say you wouldn’t make the same decision if you were in their shoes. Let’s not criticise each other. What works for you won’t necessarily work for them.
Because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.
I know we all have the tendency to sometimes judge people for making decisions that we ‘wouldn’t have made’ if we were in the same situation. Is minding your business something that you sometimes struggle with if so why do you think that is?
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