It takes time to tell the full story.
And I don’t ever want Asklychee to be about me, as such, rather more about my experiences.
But I have been asked a number of questions here and there, which to be honest if I answered individually would just take too much time. Plus a lot of these questions can be quite generic and repetitive.
So I thought I would dedicate a post answering questions I know people (including me) have often avoided – just to switch it up a little.
*Disclaimer – Everything I have said below is 1000% honest
So, shall we begin?
Let’s do it!
I am 27 years old. I know I pitch myself as a twenty something year old, which is still true but my exact age is 27 years old 10 months and 13 days. Not that this should matter but it saves you trying to work out how old I might be from my posts.
I used to be obsessed with Justin Timberlake, no lie, I loved everything about him and have seen him twice in concert. I know I don’t know the guy at all, but I swear I could reel off every single known ‘tabloid’ fact about him, if I had to. He was my first real crush.
After him (yes in my head he was my man lol), I have only ever had two boyfriends and that includes my husband.
But please don’t misconstrue that to mean I was a saint.
Neither was I a slut.
But even if I was like who really cares.
Despite me not being a virgin, I only ever wear pads – as I struggle with the concept of sticking a tampon up there. Penis, yes. Tampon, hmmmm. Maybe one day I will try it, but for now, pads do me just fine when I am on my period.
Another thing I struggle with is religion. I love God but often encounter hardships in my relationship with him. I haven’t given up though. And I pray I never will. I can’t imagine my life without him. One day in fact I hope to meet him. God willing. I am trying everyday to prioritise this goal more and more in my life. I am even spending more time reading and understanding the bible – go figure! In fact I am spending more and more of my days just reading.
I was 14 maybe even 15 years old, I can’t quite remember, when I read my first ever book, Noughts & Crosses by Malorie Blackman. All I remember was how much I loved that book and how much I loved the way the author described love. It was the most stimulating and emotionally satisfying book I had ever read. I highly recommend it!
You would think after reading such a book, my love for literature would increase. Nope. Post reading this trilogy, I stopped reading and didn’t pick up another book until the age of 20/21, which was bought for me by my husband, so I sort of had to read it. But now in the last year I have read more books than I ever could have imagined and reading is definitely one of my favourite pastime!
Perhaps this is why I enjoy writing so much.
But then again, I enjoy a lot of things!
I also enjoy eating. I love food so much, so I given up trying to be skinny. All I now want to be is healthy (whether that’s a size 10 or 12 makes no difference to me anymore lol)! Don’t get it twisted, I do work out and I care for my body BUT I love everything that’s supposedly bad for us like chocolates, sweets, burgers (especially five guys even though it’s expensive), Chinese (King Prawn Fried Rice), Jollof Rice and anything filling really.
What I do hate about eating however, is when people around me eat so loudly. This really pisses me off. There’s just no need to eat so loudly!
I love to cook but only when I am cooking for other people, like my husband, family or friends – cooking for myself is just long! I tend to get bored when cooking the same things hence last January, I started cooking a new dish every week to spice things up – something I still do! I stalk a lot of Instagram accounts to give me ideas on what to cook.
I also stalk a lot of Instagram accounts in general. Yes, I stalk a lot of you. I stalk some people that have hurt my feelings. I stalk my friends. I pretty much stalk everyone.
It’s not that I don’t have friends or anything, it’s just that I don’t have that many. I think I may have mentioned this before. The reason for this is that I find it very difficult to trust people. Not a good thing I know but this is ME. I am however trying to change as I have been enjoying meeting new people in the last few months so watch this space!
Part of ‘this meeting new people’ has been made a lot easier by my husband because of what he does as a career. And, yes, I am married. A ‘newlywed’ in fact, but it doesn’t feel too new to me. Not sure if that’s a bad thing! It’s weird because I always had an idea of what kind of wife I would be – but I am not sure even God can live up to that idea. I had pictured us having sex every night, me cooking for him every day but that is far from the truth. And I am glad that’s the case, because sex and cooking every day would be exhausting!
We’ve been together for 8 years, but have been married for about 6 months now. So we know each other fairly well. He is such a great friend & partner to me, and I hope I am to him. And for those who ask me what the difference is now that we are married – to put it simply – it is the same but different. So, if you know you know and if you don’t know I am sure you will get to know in time! It’s very hard to explain. Being married to my babi has its perks, such as travelling!
I love love love to travel and I know that this is a passion for a lot of people. But I like to think I am different – haha. Not because I have travelled extensively but because I feel about travel the way a happy new mother feels about her sometimes impossible, restless newborn baby – I just don’t care what it puts me through. I adore it!
Despite this – I am a homebody! It takes so much effort for me to want to go out. Don’t get me wrong, I like it when I am out but after an hour I just want to get back home and be in my pyjamas. I don’t mind that people see this part of me as boring, I am happy when I am home. I love Netflix and I love to Chill. That literally sums up my life in one sentence. I just recently started watching Power and even though there are way too many sex scenes, it’s a decent watch and I finished season 1 in like a day.
I know I don’t really do posts like this and I don’t think I will do this again anytime soon but I hope you enjoyed the honesty of this post.
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