I write, and I know that I am.
I write and I know that someone will understand. Someone will care.
It’s my own little way of changing a piece of me one day at a time.
If we don’t change, or the very least embrace change, we don’t grow. This realisation haunts me because not so long ago I avoided change. I really did. Sometimes I still avoid change, if I am being brutally honest.
And I think one of the major reasons why we avoid change is because of the fear of the unknown.
We want to know what’s going to happen next?
How will things unfold?
What will happen to me?
If we don’t know the answers, we usually refrain from making changes, just to stay in the “familiar”.
When I quit my job, I genuinely did not have a backup plan. I know people say that all the time and in most cases they’re probably not being true. But seriously, I had no savings, nothing – and I still had my wedding to pay for (not the smartest move and maybe in hindsight I would have done things differently – who knows)! All I knew was that I didn’t want to be in that job anymore. That’s it. That was my not this moment.
Albeit this moment in itself was an accumulation of unhappiness that I had been shamefully hiding for years, it was enough for me to change my life around completely!
Everything that has happened since then I couldn’t have foreseen; becoming an Digital Editor at a magazine I admire, project managing an event where Bastille was headlining, taking multiple trips around the world, being featured in several publications, organising Suli Breaks summer show all the while spending more time writing and taking care of my health. I didn’t plan any of this!
That’s why I feel like I can say; we shouldn’t over think the how; just believe that it will happen.
And as we go on this journey of growth remember you can’t force people to grow, who are not ready to grow.
I know many of us try to bring people with us on our journey.
We try to give them a vision to see the bigger picture, but they remain blind to that wisdom. It’s not your fault. You have to stop blaming yourself for other people’s lack of awareness. You can’t force people to evolve.
In the transition of understanding yourself, you’ll realise how much you’re growing and changing as a person.
During this time, the behaviours, the habits, and choices of the people around you won’t make sense any longer.
So instead of allowing the realignment for new circumstances to occur, we try to start changing the people around us to match our ‘new life’.
Trying eventually turns into forcing, because of our fears of the unfamiliar.
We want everyone to grow together. Move into new phases of life together.
However, that’s not how things work. We only hurt ourselves, not allowing these new changes to occur. We inhibit our own personal growth out of fear of losing people we no longer can relate to.
Some people just don’t want to grow.
This is a hard truth to swallow. But it’s a fact.
Some people are comfortable with being stagnate. They can’t handle change very well and that’s fine. Let them be!
Why limit yourself because of someone else’s fears?
Spin wildly into your next action.
And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart, where your hope lives. You’ll find your way again.
I guarantee you.
There is no competition. It’s just who you are vs. who you’re becoming. Stop trying to force people who don’t want to change to change.
I had to write this today so that I can look back on this one day in the near future and know that I had tried with some people in my life, but need to accept that if someone was meant to be in my life, they will catch up.
I am not sure who this will help, but it has helped me spilling these words on here.
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