There’s a little known fact that the more successful you become – happier, healthier, fitter, more content – the more the average person begins to hate you.
The raw truth is that the average person will HATE YOU for being special. For being amazing. For not watching TV and using your time wisely. For taking your limited time and investing it into a project that adds something amazing to the world.
So why does this happen?
Three main reasons I will break down one at a time across the week.
It reminds them that they caved to fear, uncertainty, pressure, etc. and they gave up.
Think about running into an old college friend.
You’re at a 5 or 10 year reunion, and the dropout friend of yours is now running their own business that he LOVES, helping take people around the world on adventure trips.
And let’s say for the sake of argument you’re kinda stuck in the grind. You were told to take the classic path of get a good job, pay your bills, and then get married.
Suddenly you’re struck with envy, “WTF did they do right that I did wrong? They gets to travel all the time and wake up to something they enjoy, and I don’t.”
And usually, rather than being inspired, we feel resentful. We make excuses. It strikes us at the core – because we realise that WE have a dream too. We wanted to go take that year abroad to go to America, or we wanted to volunteer in Zambia. But we didn’t, because we got talked out of it or we were too “realistic” about life.
So rather than being inspired, we resent that person. We make excuses, “Well they could do that because of XYZ…” and “they don’t have responsibilities like I do…” and all kinds of justifications.
But it still bothers us. Deep down we’re pissed off, and mostly pissed off at ourselves. “What happened to that dream I used to have? Why did I give up on it?”
Sometimes when you become successful, hordes of friends, family, and peers begin to not only rationalise their own failure, but try to take away your success. “You had all these resources I didn’t…” they say. But what they’re really doing is telling THEMSELVES a story to feel better.
This is me just giving you the heads up (with more to come on Thursday and Sunday) – when you see the haters coming, even if they’re your close friends, it’s time to keep moving.
People will hate you no matter what you do, so why not have them hate you for being great?
Thoughts on this? Tell me by commenting above.