I will be honest, for a long time I had avoided buying this book, not for any particular reason, other than the fact that I tend to veer away from self help books. Just because.
It wasn’t until one of my favourite authors, Elizabeth Gilbert, had recommended reading this book in an interview, that made me take the plunge and buy it.
This book is not an easy read.
Not because it hasn’t been written beautifully; it has.
Brené uses her storytelling muscle to perfection.
It’s not an easy read because while there’s a process to rising strong,Brené teaches us that it’s not easy. That we need to sit with our discomfort. That we need to name shame. That we can’t do it all. And as a human being, this is a hard fact to accept.
I love the fact that the book is rich with anecdotes from Brené’s own life. This, to me, is part of the strength of the book.
This then coupled with research she has done blows the book out of the waters because her research provide us with a way to talk with each other about the ideas and feelings and fears we’ve all had but haven’t quite known how to articulate.
It’s like we’ve all had a sense of the concepts Brené studies—specifically shame, vulnerability, and courage—but never before have we had the words to fully express what we’ve been feeling, or to share with each other our experiences.
One of the most powerful practices I learned from Rising Strong is the idea of incorporating into our lives and communications the phrase, “the story I’m making up is….” That is, recognising and acknowledging that the interpretations of events we’ve created in our heads—the stories from which our fears flow—are maybe, just maybe, not one hundred percent accurate.
Albeit I think it’s a difficult concept to embrace, especially when we’re dealing with people whose actions so very thoroughly conflict with our own needs and values. Personally, I think if more of us could embrace that belief in our day-to-day dealings, it could have a profound impact on our interactions and our world.
It’s probably worth mentioning now, that at times I did however feel that some sections were quite repetitive and simply there to pad the book out, which annoyed me a little. Still definitely worth fighting through it though, just be aware of that.
I would recommend this book, to anyone who wishes to move forward in a positive way and have more rewarding relationships with others.