The premise is simple: go with your gut.
If your gut says “end this relationship and move abroad,” then that’s what your gut says. Fear (not you) will say “Oh but I’m scared of starting something new or not finding love again.”
If your gut says “I know deep down I need to quit this job, because I am not happy and there’s something I’ve always wanted to start,” then that’s what your gut says. It’s only that innate ambiguous fear of change (again, not you) that will keep you in the job that’s killing your spirit day by day. If your gut says “I can’t stand the thought of becoming a lawyer,” but you’re going to become a lawyer anyway to make your family proud (since no one in your family has ever had a ‘real’ profession), that’s not you. That’s your feeling of pride, and again, your ego. None of these involve YOU. So how do you involve you? Any time you are making a decision, notice when these three guys show up: EGO, FEAR OF CHANGE, AND FEELINGS OF “DUTY, OBLIGATION, OR MAKING SOMEONE PROUD.” I’m going to level with you now and say, that if you make any decision based on ego, fear of change, or feelings of obligation or duty, you’re going to sacrifice your own well-being – trust me when i say this please! For a long time all I ever wanted to be was the saviour of my family, the daughter who made my mum happy, but I then realised 3 years ago that even when I was doing everything by ‘the book’ she still was not happy with the choices I had made, so I literally said to myself, no more – this tbh is partly the reason I am here, where I am today – in an island called ME – Paradise 🙂
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