The following is a bit of a moan – I’ll admit it, but it just has to be said so I am going to be unapologetic about this one!
Who are you taking advice from? When the people closest to you have no idea what you’re doing, and they don’t even try to understand you or support you, it sucks. For me personally when it’s my babi or ‘my girlies’ – it’s the worst feeling in the world when I don’t have their support.
When you hear them say you can’t or shouldn’t — you can’t start your own business because you have other “priorities”, you can’t go chase after that girl or guy of your dreams, you can’t create a life that looks like it belongs in the movies — who the f*ck are they to say that? Most people giving advice are AVERAGE people living AVERAGE lives giving AVERAGE advice. So why the f*ck would you let your biggest dreams, biggest desires, biggest passions, biggest drives slip because of that? Why would you let them destroy your dream of doing something beyond average? People will say “realistically speaking…” f*ck being realistic. You know what? If someone tells you “realistically speaking” tell them you can’t be friends. Seriously. The worst part of this is that the people who tell you to be “realistic” usually haven’t even done what you are trying to do! They’re people who have settled for shitty jobs, they’re people who have settled for less-than-ideal spouses because of circumstances, and they’re people who moan and groan about their daily life, just killing time. They’re the people who are 30lbs overweight giving diet advice, they’re the people talking about how “easy” it is to start a successful business who have never been self-employed in their life. And they’re people giving financial advice even though they’re broke as hell.
Sometimes when you take someone’s advice with a grain of salt it should be a big ass grain of salt – remember that the next time you hear a bunch of unsolicited (or sometimes solicited) advice from people whose opinions you care about! If you’ve already decided in your head that the path you are going to take is unlike anyone else’s, you better take that into consideration when listening to their advice. So, if you plan on living a more-than-average life and not settling, remember to avoid average people giving you average advice from their average life experience. You’ll only end up just like them!