Sometimes we can face things in our life and keep it from the world.
Nobody would know that your marriage is failing.
Or that you cry yourself to sleep most nights.
Or even that you are no longer confident about your body.
Nobody would know anything and most people wouldn’t care.
I know that this is a hard truth to swallow but it is a truth nonetheless.
The thing is though, I have come to learn that we can suppress these things as long as we want but sooner or later the lid will open.
On the outside, we can all appear that everything is ‘fine’ but inside we are fighting demons we wouldn’t wish on our worst enemy.
So please as we start a new week, let us take time to really engage with the people we talk to on a daily basis, the people we ask ‘How are you?’, ‘How was your weekend?’ Even if you don’t care, give this person a chance…I mean another chance. There may be a legitimate reason why they act, the way they act.
Let them open up – everyone needs someone to talk to, someone to share with.
The last few months I slowly retreated to myself because I genuinely believed that no one would care about how or what I was feeling.
Every time someone asked me how I was, I would just say, “I am tired’. And I was tired, genuinely. But I was only tired because I was doing so much, feeling so much, being so much.
No one really took the time to go any deeper than this answer I gave, so I continued to suppress and get on with shit until one of my friend’s prodded me more and more. Truth be told, this person had more on their plate than anyone I knew, but it didn’t stop her from sincerely caring.
It is this moment that has sparked this post and brought me back because I wanted to remind myself and anyone who still reads what I write to give people the time of day because we are all going through something.